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  • The Things I’d Like To See

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    Following on from Domming Whilst Nonbinary, there are some things I’d like to see that would make my time a lot easier and make me and other nonbinary fetishists feel more welcome.

        • More gender options at site sign up – It doesn’t need to be a huge long list, just give us a write in box.           Signing up to a site where the only options are male or female, or even worse male, female or trans like       trans is some mysterious third catch all gender, is honestly the worst. It’s 2021, do better.
          I tend to avoid social networks that don’t offer good gender options on sign up, but there are so many           industry sites I’ve had to sign up to that have poor options and really it needs to change.
        • Better pronoun options. I recently signed up to Smuttify, you can find my profile here. Over all I am really       liking the site, it’s very user friendly, very modern looking, it doesn’t have that “we made this on                     Geocities  in 2001 and never updated” look that a lot of fetish sites have. Gender options on sign up             weren’t terrible, however I discovered that the pronouns default to he/him if you pick a gender option             other than female. Consequently when I changed my profile picture, it appeared in my newsfeed as               “Mxtress Valleycat changed his profile picture”. Defaulting to they/them would make way more sense,            giving us a tick box option would be better, write in pronoun options would be ideal.
        • Inclusive language. This one is for sites, events, dungeons etc. Use inclusive language. I know this is           going to be a startling revelation, but inclusive language, makes people feel included. If you’re running a       femdom night, specify that you’re inclusive of all femdom, that you’re inclusive of trans people, people           outside of the binary, don’t rant that that somehow means “female domination is not allowed” because         that is not what that means at all.
    • Diversity in advertising. The era of slim white cis women on every piece of advertising is over. This isn’t  to say                   slim white cis women can’t ever be in the adverting, just that they shouldn’t be on every piece.  There are people of           every race, gender, sexuality, ability, legal age in the fetish scene, show them  celebrate them.

    Often it’s small changes, nothing here is hard work it’s just about being conscious of inclusivity really.


  • 20171015 160021 - Domming Whilst Nonbinary Domming Whilst Nonbinary

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    Gender is odd sometimes. I have known for a very long time that I am not female, no matter how many people told me otherwise. I knew I wasn’t male either, but for a long time I didn’t have the words to explain who or what I am. In ways I still don’t, nonbinary is an umbrella term for all of us who don’t fit into the gender binary.
    I often find people get a little bit confused when I say I am nonbinary because they expect someone thin and androgynous with a crew cut and a beige wardrobe and it’s fine to be that but that is not who I am. I wear skirts and dresses and I describe myself as femme, because I look and dress in ways that are associated with femininity. Sometimes people find that hard to understand, and that’s ok, you don’t have to understand you just have to respect. There’s an Eddie Izzard quote I’ve liked for years that about nails my relationship with cloth, “They’re not women’s clothes, they’re my clothes I bought them”, to me that’s a perfect explanation. Clothes don’t really have gender, we often associate them with gender, but they don’t inherently have that.

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    As long as you respect my identity, and use the correct pronouns (they /them) and tittle (Mxtress) then that is all that really matters to me, if you want to understand then that’s even better, allow me to point you at some resources and articles about gender and how it’s more wibbly wobbly that we’ve been lead to believe, but as long as I am shown my due respect, then that is what matters to me.


    This one is a few years old now, and I’d suggest you look up the updated version that delves into how the scientific understanding of biological sex has changed in recent years, this is still a pretty solid introduction though.

    I find often that parts of the scene are not built with nonbinary people in mind, which can be incredibly frustrating – it’s not like we’re a new concept, people who are not part of the binary have always existed – but more and more I am starting to see people cotton on.
    Sometimes I encounter odd little things though, I signed up to Smuttyfy recently (feel free to send me a friend request!) and was very happy to see there was an “other” option in the flip down menu for gender during sign up, but then found it pretty odd that my newsfeed said things like “Mxtressvalleycat updated his profile picture”, it seems a little odd to me to default to he/him pronouns when they/them exists (or an even better option that always fills me with good feelings for a site is a write in option or a flip down for pronouns!).

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    People who insist on using she/her pronouns for me or calling me a woman even after I have explained otherwise will not get far with me, if you cannot even show me the basic respect of getting that right, how am I supposed to think of you in any way as someone who could be a good submissive?
    If you have done this in the past, but want to apologise you can do so here by paying my $100 missgendering fee.


  • 10pctlandscape - 10% off at Clips4Sale 10% off at Clips4Sale

    10pct 200x300 - 10% off at Clips4SaleWell – I come baring some great news.

    Clips4Sale have a site-wide initiative at the moment which means using their referral code you can receive 10% off your clip order when using the advanced search.

    I really like the advanced search – it’s a much easier way to find the type of content you want.

    The offer runs until April 20th and is applicable to any store.

    To make your life easier – I’ve embedded the referral code into my domain – so all you have to do is visit femmedom.club 

    C4S has had many initiatives for store owners, but this one is solely for those buying clips – what I get out of it is more people get to enjoy my clips a little cheaper – so, if you’ve sat on the fence or not been able to afford some – now is you chance.

    I have LOTS of new content and more coming VERY soon – I’m currently uploading 3 clips per week across a number of themes.  Coming very soon is some double-domme clips and some more with different subs, as well as POVs.

    So. Check out the store and enjoy.


  • many vids promo - ManyVids Bank Holiday Discount ManyVids Bank Holiday Discount

    With it being a bank holiday in the UK, I decided to reward my ManyVids followers.  They were sent a 15% off discount code, which could be used on any of my clips all weekend.

    The code is Mxt7806 and is applicable until 23.59 (UK time) on Monday 27th August.

    Of course, ManyVids followers were informed of this on Friday night via one of my flyers and so they’ve had all weekend to enjoy discounts. You have under 12 hours.

    If you do follow me there and didn’t get the code… check your inbox – and click ‘flyers’. It may be other models have also sent discounts or news!

    However – I have been thinking of doing similar spot and limited time offers and other times.  Take this as as invitation to follow me on ManyVids (you don’t have to buy something to follow me, but it is appreciated and I’ve lots of great things there) or of course, join my Mailing List as I will also be sending out spot offers that way.  The next mailshot is due this coming weekend, so, be quick….


  • straitfeet1 - Behind the Scenes Sneak Peek... StraitJacket fun Behind the Scenes Sneak Peek… StraitJacket fun

     

    I don’t put too many of these videos up, but, thought I would as a little teaser of what is coming…  I recently bought a new jacket for my sub, a nice comfy one that gives him a permanent hug – haha – I strapped him and we did 5 clips, which are coming over the next 4 weeks (there’s of course a foot clip, so you get two that week.)

    Do stay tuned to my clip stores for the updates….

    Download or stream for free here

     


  • 0080 V1v - July Clip Round Up July Clip Round Up

    July was a very hectic month for releasing new content.   It’s been good to be able to release so much, so often – and there’s plenty more to come soon.

    I’ve included some selected stills – and also brief descriptions of each new clip below.

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    Smelly Stripey Socks

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    It’s been a long day, my socks are soaking with sweat – my feet are sweaty. Lots of close ups.

    A Distracting Work-Out

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    I both make my sub work out… and distract him! Sit ups with CBT – pressups with foot worship!

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    I have my sub trapped in a secure bodybag – try make the most of this predicament I taunt him with my feet

    Breath through Stockings

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    I place my sweaty stockings into a gas mask, fit it nice and secure… there, all you breath is me!

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    With my sub still tied in the bag, now to make use of pushing my huge arse in his small face.

    Playing with Bubbles Instead of You

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    You want to play. I want to blow bubbles at you. Guess which one of us wins?

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    I’m forever blowing bubbles…. even bigger ones than before… and this clip has some teases of my boobs.

    Let’s Rub Undercuts

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    Ignoring you as I vape

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    You want attention, I want to vape. So, I’m just going to ignore you until I’m done.

    Playing with my watersnake

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    A little fun video with a very phallic watersnake – squishing and playing with it…

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    A foot tease clip involving some massaging – and a very lovely new harness.

    Unicorn Edging

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    Sub still trapped in the body bag, time to edge with my new Unicorn Vibrator


  • 22815572 10159441955875043 3370745047158377642 n - Birthday Countdown! Birthday Countdown!

    22815572 10159441955875043 3370745047158377642 n 240x300 - Birthday Countdown!It’s only 8 days (and counting) until a wonderful day… my birthday!

    25th April we celebrate the completion of another year of my birth.

    If you’d like to show your appreciation – whether you are a friend, acquaintance, fan, admirer then it’s a good time to break the ice!

    I have a number of ways, for all budgets.

    Perhaps you’d like to get me a birthday drink (click)

    or pay towards the cost of my birthday meal (click) (actually we’re going for burgers, but the price is around the same)

    there’s also my wishlist (click)

    or just a cash tribute (click)

    I’d also massively appreciate Libidex gift vouchers (click)

    Equally, you can always just help yourself to my clipstore (click)

    It’s all appreciated – there’ll be thank you’s all round.


  • FL IMG 5257 - March Round Up March Round Up

    FL IMG 5257 200x300 - March Round UpIt’s been a busy time recently – lots on the go, so here’s a round up of some of the clips I put out in March.

    Firstly, some stand alone clips.

    Stable Boot Licker – A boot worship scene with some dusty, hay-covered boots.
    Fun With Balloons – a must for any looner fans!
    Demonstrating Electronics – I have a new sub to zap!!!
    Giant Goddess Swats You Away – I’m tall enough at the best of times!  Add in some platforms and I rocket well above 6 foot!

    Meet Your New Boss

    Also in March, I put out a series of Office Clips.  The clips tell a story.
    In part 1 (Meet Your New Boss) this is a POV clip where you get to work and find I am now your boss.  There’s going to be changes!  Part 2 (Annual Appraisal) is another POV going through your, frankly dreadful, appraisal.
    Part 3 (Under Desk  Loser) contains a member of staff who has been slacking and is trying to improve his score by becoming my office bitch.  In this clip I have him inhaling my 29251116 10160052652610043 121528740 o 300x200 - March Round Upstockings after a long day, 5.15pm on a Friday.
    Part 4 (Office Bitch Paints My Nails) has him come in 7am on a Monday just to paint my nails!

    Perhaps in the future we will have more in this series.

    In the meantime, the stockings wore in this clip haven’t been washed and are available to purchase.  I haven’t added them to my store yet – so if you’re interested and make me a good offer, then perhaps we can deal direct.


  • Kevin IMG 0092 e1523087858481 - Fuck the Diet January Fuck the Diet January

    January is a time where everyone seems so miserable.
    Whether it’s going back to work, or embarking on New Years Resolutions giving up their favourite things. Going on diets. Dry January. Going to the gym.

    There’s none of that from me.

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  • 20171202 190314 - Trailer For My Christmas Clips! Trailer For My Christmas Clips!

    I created a free trailer showcasing some of my Christmas clips.

    You can view this below.

    click here to visit my store

    Enjoy my trailer!